Welcome to the mirror (#2) of the style life challenge

Welcome to the mirror (#2) of the style life challenge

Hello everyone, note THERE IS NO DAY 3, when copied the style life challenge I'm sure Day 3 was something stupid like "don't masturbate today". So no worries.

This is the 2nd mirror because the first mirror the days were not in order, I made another blog specifically to line up all the days (except day 3, since there is none) in order. I have many of the PDF's and MP3's but unfortunately many of the videos were hosted only briefly during that period and I didn't have wasn't a Firefox user then with all the neat plugins, that could have saved them.

Day 1

Saturday, July 01, 2006

Day 1

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 1.

IMPORTANT: TO OFFICIALLY ENROLL IN THE CHALLENGE, YOU MUST POST YOUR CHALLENGER PROFILE, AS EXPLAINED IN TASK #3.


TASK 1

Watch your introduction to The Stylelife Challenge here:

Stylelife Intro


TASK 2

Write down the following:

a. One or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you.
b. One or two sentences describing how you'd ideally like to be perceived by others.
c. Three of your behaviors or characteristics that you would like to get rid of.
d. Three new behaviors or characteristics that you would like to adapt.

Do not worry what anyone else will think of your answers. Your goal is to be as HONEST with yourself as possible. Try to be as accurate in your choice of words as possible, and rethink each sentence at least once.


TASK 3

Post your responses from above in the new forum message board titled STYLELIFE CHALLENGERS as a new thread.

Use your NICKNAME as the TITLE of the thread. If you would like to introduce yourself to your fellow challengers, you may add to the top of your answers a two-sentence description of yourself and why you’re taking the challenge.

By posting your answers, you are officially announcing your commitment and participation in the Stylelife Challenge. This will serve as the Master List of Challengers. It will only be open on Day 1.


TASK 4

Download the following audio file and listen to it on headphones:

Mind-Shaping Exercise


(It will take on average three-and-a-half minutes to download from a DSL connection and 35 minutes to download from a dial-up modem.)

This file is a charismatic mind-shaping exercise that I developed specifically for the challenge with a foremost expert in neurology. It is recommended that you find a comfortable place free of distractions, and adjust the lighting, your clothing, and your footwear so that you are as relaxed as possible. Then put on headphones, play the audio, and take the journey.

Make sure you listen to the entire recording, without interruption. It is more important to FEEL this experience than it is to actually SEE it. Repeat this exercise as many times as you like - the more you feel like doing it, the better the result.

Note: It is important to carry out every assignment throughout the challenge, even if it doesn't make sense at the time it’s given. Many of the assignments are woven together and build on each other.


TASK 5

Make small talk with five strangers today.

The stranger can be a businessman in the elevator with you, an old lady in the supermarket line, the postman, or a homeless person.

The goal is simply to start a conversation with no intent other than filling in the silence with a question or pleasantry. The conversation does not have to progress beyond a comment and a response.

Small talk topics often include:

Weather (“Man, it’s gorgeous today. Too bad we’re stuck indoors.”)

Sports (“Did you catch the World Cup game last night?”)

Current events (“Did you hear that the Spanish parliament is voting to
give equal rights to apes? I swear to God.”)

Entertainment (“Have you seen that new Superman movie yet?”)

Here are is an audio example of Rourke demonstrating the ease of
making small talk with strangers:

Small Talk Demo


TASK 6

Make sure you read tomorrow’s Stylelife Challenge assignment as soon as you wake up – before you shower or shave.

Day 4

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Day 4

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Happy Independence Day.

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 4th.

NOTE: Today is one of the more critical days of the Stylelife Challenge. Make sure you listen to your special mission given in Task #3 below. If you are going to be at hoiday events all day, it is still possible to complete this mission -- as long as you are interacting with people who you didn't previously know.


TASK 1

If you masturbate, do not masturbate today.


TASK 2

As soon as you wake up, shower, shampoo, and soap thoroughly. Wash twice if you want.

Put something scented on your body – moisturizer, talcum powder, or a drop of nice cologne.

Then shave your face clean. Make sure you shave or tweeze any stray places where you have hair – the back of your neck, your ears, your nostrils.

Put on some clean, well-fitting clothing. And feel like a million dollars.

Look at yourself in the mirror and read the following: You are a god. People love you. You glow and radiate charisma and charm. You stand out from everyone else around you. Talking to you is a privilege. You deserve the best the world has to offer. It’s all there out there, waiting for YOU to take it.

Now, say the following out loud, with conviction: I am a god. People love me. I glow and radiate charisma and charm. I stand out from everyone else around me. Talking to me is a privilege. I deserve the best the world has to offer. It’s all out there, waiting for ME to take it.

Repeat it once more time, or as many times as it takes, until you really FEEL and EMBODY it.

There you go.


TASK 3

Today, you have a special mission. It is best to perform this mission as soon as you are shaved, showered, clean, and feeling good. You can find out what it is here:

Your Day 4 Mission


TASK 4 (OPTIONAL)

If you haven’t yet posted your photo in the Style Critique section of the board, do so today.

If you are shy about getting “caught” trying to improve yourself, you may take the photo down in two days, when this exercise is over.

If you are not sure how to post your photo on the message board, here is a short instructional tutorial:

How To Post A Photo


TASK 5

Go to the Style Critique section of the board. Offer constructive criticism to those who have posted photos. You’re going to want to look at:

--the first impression you get from the photo
--the way the clothes fit.
--the style of dress.
--hairstyle and, if applicable, facial hair
--grooming
--body language
--accessories


TASK 6 (OPTIONAL)

Choose one of the following to experience again: The mind-shaping CD, the posture videos, or the voice exercises. This is recommended every day during the Challenge.

Day 2 (What was on Day 3 was irrelevant)

unday, July 02, 2006

Day 2

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 2nd.


TASK 1

Do not shower today.


TASK 2

Do not shave today.


TASK 3

Download and fill out the personal mission statement below:

Personal Mission PDF

If you’d like to share your personal mission with others, you may post it in the thread you created yesterday -- the one with your nickname on the Stylelife Challenger board. It is not necessary, though, since some of your answers may be private.


TASK 4

After completing the mission statement, listen to the mind-shaping CD again. Understand and process who you will be.

In case you didn't keep the file from yesterday, here it is again:

Mind-Shaping Audio
(You may need Realplayer or iTunes to properly play the file.)


TASK 5

Watch the video below on posture. This was prepared for you by Julia Caulder, who taught me Alexander Technique while I was learning the game. Watch it somewhere alone, so that you can perform the recommended exercises.

Because it is 13 minutes long, I’ve broken it up into two parts.

Part One

Part Two


TASK 6

Go out and make small talk with five more strangers today.

But we’re going to add one piece to the exercise:

This time, be sure that you make EYE CONTACT with the person.

In fact, when you report back on your experiences in the Forums, write down the EYE COLOR of the person you made small talk with.

Note that asking for directions or the time does not constitute small talk, because it has a purpose and intent. If you want to see successful examples of small talk, check Rourke’s video from Day 1 (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEZ_FSQHUeg) or some of the field reports from yesterday on the Challenge Discussion board.


TASK 7

Make sure you read tomorrow’s Challenge assignment as soon as you wake up.

Day 5

Day 5

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your assignment for July 5th.

Today is grooming day, and the focus is…your appearance.

NOTE: If you are short on money, it's possible to perform all of the required tasks without spending anything.


TASK 1

Read the following PDF on looks, grooming, and pickup:

Looks And Grooming



TASK 2

If you posted a photo of yourself, read and take notes on the most useful feedback.

Try to imagine what you would look like if those changes were made.

If you wish, you can find free software on the Internet in which you can upload a photo of yourself, alter your look, and see the results.


TASK 3

Your field assignment today is to get a free style consultation.

You are going to do this by examining the results of yesterday’s field exercise and choosing the clothing stores that came the highest recommended to you. Small, independent stores are preferable to large chains.

Go to that clothing store today (ideally when it’s not crowded) and select the saleswoman who seems to be the most helpful. Tell her that you want to change your style, and ask her to put together a complete outfit for you. If she wants you to be more specific, tell her you’re going to New York or Los Angeles and need something to wear to a high-profile fashion show.

More important than the style of the clothes, it is necessary that they fit you very well.

Change into the new clothes and observe yourself in the mirror.

If you like them, you may buy them. Make sure you take care of them by hanging them in a closet and dry-cleaning them – rather than machine-washing them -- when they’re dirty.

If the items are out of your means, remember the brands, the overall look, and the sizes, so that you may one day buy them or alternately find an equivalent outfit at a used clothing store.

If you choose to buy the new outfit, ask the saleslady where you can buy a matching pair of shoes and follow a similar routine there. However, this time show the salesperson the outfit and ask her to find shoes to match.

If you don’t like the outfit she selected for you, tell her why and let her try one more time.

Finally, if the saleslady is either not helpful or pushing you too hard to buy things, try another store you were recommended.


TASK 4 (Optional)

You are going to change at least one more thing about your appearance. Choose one or more of the following micro-tasks below to perform. Not all of these will apply to you, so choose one from the area in which you’re most deficient.

Refer to the Grooming pdf above for further elaboration on these areas.

If you have a trustworthy female or gay friend, consult them and ask for an honest critical appraisal of your grooming:

NOTE: Do not be afraid of making a dramatic change for the better. No matter what your friends or colleagues may say at the time, they will be jealous and imitating you when they one day see the women on your arm.

A. Get a new hairstyle at a beauty salon (not a barbershop). It is recommended that you first look through men’s music or fashion magazines, and bring a photograph of the haircut you think is the coolest. Otherwise, the hairstylist may just give you the same haircut you have now. Make sure she gets rid of your neck hair if any, and recommends any hair balm necessary to maintaining your new look.

B. If you wear glasses, get contacts or Lasik.

C. Get a tan. Though the sun is free, the safest and quickest way to do this is to go for a spray tan. Mystic Tan is the most realistic and common spray-tan brand.

D. Get a manicure. It is not necessary to get a colored polish; just ask to get them “buffed” instead.

E. Get your eyebrows waxed and dyed.

F. Buy Crest Whitestrips and begin using them on your teeth daily.

G. Buy gum, mints, and dental floss, then make an appointment to see a dentist if you haven’t been to one in over a year.

H. Get a free skin care consultation by going to a department store cosmetics counter and asking what products they’d recommend for your skin. Feel free to buy cheaper versions of the same products at a pharmacy or just ask for samples at the department store. If you consider your complexion to be a major liability, then make an appointment to see a dermatologist as well.

I. Get tweezers and/or a nose-hair trimmer, and remove any hair in your nostrils, on your ears, between your eyebrows, and/or on the back of your neck.

J. If you do not own a pair of clean, nice black shoes or boots, buy a pair by going to the store recommended by the sales clerk in task 3. If you don’t have any black socks, buy some.

K. Buy a necklace, rings, a bracelet or wrist cuff, and/or any other accouterment. Try not to get anything that looks like it came from a chain store like Hot Topic – even if it did. When in doubt, err on the side of getting something simple for now.


TASK 5

If you bought any new clothing or items today, be prepared to wear them tomorrow.

Day 6

Day 6

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 6.


TASK 1

Make sure you shower, shave, and feel good before you leave the house today. Play your favorite CD at high volume if necessary. If you purchased any new items yesterday, put them on. Try not to touch yourself.

Over the course of the day, give five women spontaneous compliments about a specific attribute. At least four of these compliments should be given to women who you do not previously know.

Avoid general compliments (such as “you’re beautiful” or “you’re hot”) and anything that could be construed as sexual. Instead, focus on specific compliments, which can range from her nails to her shoes to her posture.

Leave after the compliment, unless she continues the conversation. The most common response you receive will be a sincere, polite, or dismissive thank you.

The key is to not be seen as trying to flatter her or hit on her, but to show sincere appreciation of something about her that you spontaneously noticed.

You can listen to our man Rourke generating spontaneous compliments in the field here:

Today's Mission

NOTE: Although giving compliments is not part of a “standard approach,” this exercise is designed to help overcome approach anxiety and to improve your observation skills, especially after undergoing the rigorous self-examination on yourself yesterday.


TASK 2

Read the following pdf on openers:

A Brief Introduction To Openers


TASK 3

Listen to the following conversation I had with Lovedrop, a top Mystery Method instructor. Though the audio is obscured at times by passing cars and planes, the content is worth sharing; it documents the creation of a workable opener on the spot. Something you’ll be doing in Task 3.

You can hear it here:

Opener Generation Example


TASK 4

Now generate your own original opener, and post it in the newly added message group titled OPENERS.

Though the pdf discusses all types of openers, we will be focusing on scripted, indirect openers that can work in any situation.


TASK 5

Throughout the day, look through the OPENERS message board and give a QUALITY POINT to each of your THREE favorite openers.


NOTE: If at any point during these assignments, you arrange for a future meeting with a woman you’ve approached, then by all means go on that date. After your meeting with her, add your field report to the WINNER’S CIRCLE discussion board. Then congratulate yourself: You’ve won the Stylelife Challenge. Feel free to continue to do the assignments afterward – they can only help you get more dates.

Day 7

Friday, July 07, 2006

Day 7

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 7.


TASK 1

Download and read the following PDF, collecting a dozen of the Stylelife Openers all of you posted

Your Openers

TASK 2

There are two main keys to delivering an opener successfully. My Mystery Method pal Lovedrop shares them with you here:

Tips On Opening

TASK 3

Choose two of your favorite openers from the pdf. If you prefer an opener that you posted but isn't included, you may field-test that as one of your openers.

Then follow these pointers to committing them (and anything else in the future) to memory:

Memorizing Openers


TASK 4

Make sure you shower, shave, and feel good before you leave the house today. Play your favorite CD at high volume if necessary. If you purchased anything new on Day 5, put it on.

Approach five different women today (in the street, at a café, at a bar, in the mall, in an elevator, wherever) and deliver the openers you memorized.

It is not necessary to continue the conversation afterward.

When the conversation about the opener ends, you may exit with a line such as, “Thanks, I appreciate it. Pleasure meeting you.”

It is not necessary to have five successful interactions; just five approaches. In future assignments, we will be adding extra pieces to your opening game that will greatly increase its effectiveness.


TASK 5

At home tonight, make a list of the approaches you did today.

If any went well, write down the reasons why you believe they worked. If any went poorly, write down why you believe they didn’t work.

Now go back over the list. Any place where you blame someone else (ie, “she was walking too fast,” “she was stuck-up,” “she wasn’t really my type anyway,” “the guy she was with was an asshole”), cross it out and replace it with a suggestion for what you could have done differently to make the approach more successful.

It is recommended that you list your approaches and your self-assessment on the Stylelife Challenge message board, so that the moderators and your fellow Challengers can give you feedback.

Day 8

Saturday, July 08, 2006

Day 8

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 8th.

Today we are going to learn some subtleties to making your approaches more effective and successful.


TASK 1

Listen to the following audio lesson on anticipating and defusing objections to approaches:

Strategies For A Successful Approach



TASK 2

Go out and approach five women or groups that include women today with the openers you used yesterday.

This time, make certain that you add both a root and a time constraint (as explained in Task 1) to each approach.


TASK 3

When you return home tonight, ask yourself if you noticed anything different about the way the women you approached today responded in comparison with your first time using these openers yesterday.

If you noticed any difference, share it in the forums on the main Challenge Discussion board.


TASK 4


Get an insight into the dating world, mating options, and male courtship strategies from a female perspective.

I posted two personal advertisements online earlier this week. They both contained similar headlines and text. Except with one I included a picture of an unattractive woman; with the other I included a picture of an attractive woman.

You can see the responses they elicited here:

Personals Experiment

As you read them, try to put yourself in the minds of these women as they attempt to select a potential mate from among these suitors. (Side note: One of the responses actually appears to be from a guy in the community laying on too much material at once.)

What does this tell you about the qualities and characteristics you want to convey and the ones you want to avoid when approaching a woman?

Feel free to share the thoughts and insights you have while reading the responses in the Challenge Discussion forum.

Note: Do not compare yourself physically or financially to the men in these responses; studies have confirmed that most are exaggerating their looks, height, occupation, and position in society.

Day 9

Sunday, July 09, 2006

Day 9

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

The pace is about to pick up here and I’m going to start giving you more advanced material, so I want to make sure that no Challengers get left behind.

Thus, today is REVIEW day.

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 9th.


TASK 1

Look over the previous week’s assignments.

Is there any task you missed?

Is there any task that you feel you didn’t complete?

Is there any task you didn’t perform to your satisfaction?

Is there any task you’d like to do again?

Have you backslid? Do you need to correct your vocal projection, posture, or grooming again?

Take this opportunity to explore or repeat whatever previous assignments you need to.

Re-read your goals and mission statement.

Your goal is to make sure you're proficient in and comfortable with all the social-interaction exercises previously given.

Feel free to ask questions on the Stylelife Challenge board if you need help with anything already covered. Preface your post with the word CHALLENGED so that it can receive prompt attention from the moderators and your fellow Challengers.


TASK 2

If, yesterday, during the task to open five people, you only approached women who were alone, today you should repeat the exercise.

If yesterday, during the opener task, none of the women or groups you approached contained men, you should repeat the exercise.

This time approach three groups of three people or more containing at least one woman. At least two of the groups you approach should include men as well as women.

This may sound more intimidating to you, but in practice it’s actually easier. The key is to focus most of your attention on the man or men in the group initially, and to make sure that throughout the interaction he always feels like he is being paid attention to and respected.


TASK 3

Read the following Stylelife book report by JGatz on evolution and mating:

On Evolution

Day 11

Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Day 11

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 11th.

Today is one of the most important days of the Challenge. Now that you have worked on your tonality, your body language, and your appearance, it’s time to take a look at your identity and inner game.


TASK 1

Download and listen to the following audio critique of Stylelife Challenger Grinder63’s Day 10 Approaches and Day 11 Identity Exercise:

Challenge Coaching Session

[Note: Select the “FREE” option to download the audio file; it is not necessary to pay for this service.]

Alternate link: Challenge Coaching Session Streaming

TASK 2

Download and fill out the following PDF on finding and refining your identity:

Identity Building


TASK 3

Approach groups of three people or more containing at least one woman. Use an opener that contains a time constraint and a root.

However, when you’re finished with the opener, continue the conversation by adding the following movements and lines:

1. Pretend as if you’re about to leave, but take no more than one step away.

2. Look back at the group and ask, out of curiosity, “How do you all know each other?”

3. Think of one question or comment to respond with. It doesn't need to be complicated. For example, if they all say they’re friends from work, you can ask, “So where do you all work?” If two of the people are in a relationship, you can say, “No way. Congratulations. You guys look great together.”

4. You may now leave if you wish with your all-purpose closer, “Nice meeting you.”

5. You may also choose to continue talking to the group if the conversation is going well. If you do this and anyone asks you what you do for work or study in school, make sure you answer with the identity statement you created using today’s pdf. Try to use this statement in at least one of your interactions.

The task is complete after you have followed steps one through three with three groups.


TASK 4

Before you go to sleep, read this essential report on inner game by Stylelife boy wonder, JGatz:

Mastering your Inner Game


NOTE: The Winner’s Circle is officially open. Today, moderators will begin approving any field reports of dates that have been submitted.
To win: If at any point during these assignments, you arrange for a future meeting with a woman you’ve approached and she shows up, you’ve won. Just write a field report about it in the WINNER’S CIRCLE discussion board. Then congratulate yourself: You’ve won the Stylelife Challenge.
Feel free to continue to do the assignments afterward – they can only help you get more dates.

Day 10

Monday, July 10, 2006

Day 10

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 10th.

The focus today is disqualification, one of the most counter-intuitive pieces of the Game.


TASK 1

Watch the following introduction to today’s assignment, and see it in action on a supermodel in this rare video clip:

Your Day 10 Primer


TASK 2

Download and print the pdf below on disqualifers and relationship tests. Put a star next to the two lines you could most see yourself using.

On Disqualification


TASK 3

Your field exercise today is go out perform the following approaches:

1. One approach using one of the disqualification lines you marked on the pdf.
2. Another approach using the other disqualification line you marked.

Now sit down with the pdf and write down a third potential way to disqualify yourself. Then…

3. Make your third approach, using the new disqualifier or relationship test you just invented.


TASK 4

Tonight, post the line you invented – along with the results you got from it – in the new message board in the forum titled DISQUALIFIERS.

Then look through the disqualifiers shared by your fellow Challengers and give a QUALITY POINT to your three favorite posts.

Day 12

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Day 12

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 12th.

Today is storytelling day, in which you will learn to always have something to say about yourself during a conversation.

Note: Between the videos and the ebook, a number of exercises are offered to help you create and deliver compelling stories. Choose the exercises which most help you develop your storytelling skills and perform today's field assignment.


TASK 1

Watch the following two-part instructional video on storytelling by DJ, a PUA who specializes in this subject:

Part One

Part Two


TASK 2

Take a piece of paper or open a computer file, and title it: Stories To Tell.

In this space, write down five interesting stories about yourself and your experiences. Feel free to use any stories you came up with while watching the storytelling video.

If you are having trouble coming up with five, think back on recent conversations you’ve had with friends and family. Try to recall if there were any stories you told that elicited excitement, intrigue, or laughter.

If you are still having trouble, imagine that you had to pitch a movie about yourself to film producers. What key stories from your life would you need to include to interest them in making the film?

If you are still having trouble, move on to Task 3.


TASK 3

Download the following ebook on generating stories:

Story Generation Ebook

Read it through from beginning to end.

If you have already selected five stories, select the best THREE of them and use the pointers here to improve them.

If you haven’t, use the ebook to help you come up with five stories. Then select the three most interesting or humorous ones and follow a few of the steps in the ebook to bring them up to performance standards.

Time your telling of each story, and make sure it’s longer than 30 seconds but shorter than two minutes. See Step 4 for more information on this.

Each should have a definite beginning, middle, and end. See Step 16 for more information.

Once you are comfortable with the story, insert into the middle of each a space for the listener to interact. Most interaction points will involve asking if the listener relates to an experience, has an opinion on the experience, or can jog your memory with a fact.

For example, if you’re telling a story that takes place at a Chuck E. Cheese pizza parlor, you can simply make your interaction point, “Have you ever been to one of those?....Okay, so you know what I’m talking about.”

If it takes place in an airport, you might make your interaction point: “It was kind of like that movie where Tom Hanks plays the guy stuck in an airport. What was it called?”

See Step 11 of the ebook for more on interaction points.

Write out the new and improved versions of your three top stories in your Stories To Tell file on your computer.


TASK 4

Use each of your three new stories – with interaction points – at least once in conversation today. You do not have to tell the same person all three stories; just make sure that you use each story at least once over the course of the day.

It doesn’t matter whether you tell them to a woman you’re interested in, a co-worker, a friend, a parent, a stranger, a sibling, a telemarketer, or a circus clown – as long as you tell them.

You don’t have to follow the script or notes you wrote in your Stories To Tell folder; feel free to improvise. But after you recite each story, return to your Stories To Tell file and make any additions, changes, or cuts that will improve the telling.


TASK 5

Download and read the following PDF, collecting some of the Disqualifiers posted by your fellow Challengers. It’s great stuff. You should all be proud of yourselves.

Challenger Disqualifier Sampler

Day 13

Thursday, July 13, 2006

Day 13

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 13th.

Today is…BOOKSTORE DAY.

First, print out the following calendar covering the rest of the month of July:

Stylelife Calendar

Then go to a bookstore, preferably one with a café or sitting area. You should bring the PDF calendar above, something to write with, and, if you’ve been keeping one, your journal.

You are going to perform the following tasks there.


TASK 1

Pick up a copy of a local events guide. This can be a free weekly newspaper (like the LA Weekly); a magazine-style going-out guide (like Time Out); or a daily newspaper. You may also want to grab a local Zagat's guide to restaurants and/or nightlife. Since you're not going to be leaving the bookstore with these, you don't need to pay for them.


TASK 2

Pick up a copy of Cosmopolitan Magazine.


TASK 3

Sit somewhere comfortably in the store, preferably the café, and look through the listings and reviews in the paper or magazine you picked up in Task 1.

Take out your calendar and insert an event, restaurant, concert, gallery, reading, flea market, or other activity to try for each day of the week in the box on the left of each day. The simpler and cheaper the activity, the better. Free events are always good. Make sure it is something you are able to attend (not a concert that’s sold out or a restaurant that’s out of your budget).

In the larger area on the right side of the calendar, write one or two sentences convincing someone why they should go to the event.


TASK 4

Read Cosmopolitan front to back.

In addition to noting that women are just as desperate and insecure as men, find an interesting topic of conversation inspired by an article, column, letter, or advertisement.

When you find that topic, comment on it to a woman seated nearby or walking past. Show her the story in the magazine. Make sure your delivery is casual and spontaneous, as if you were just struck by something you read and can't help but share it.

If she listens and responds favorably, then congratulate yourself. You have just generated your own spontaneous routine.

If she listens but does not respond favorably, keep reading and find another interesting topic. Repeat with a different woman.

If she asks you why you’re reading Cosmopolitan, tell her that a girlfriend recommended reading it to learn more about women. If you can't find anything in Cosmopolitan, you may try US Weekly (or an equivalent celebrity gossip magazine) afterward.

There is no need to continue the conversation beyond the Cosmopolitan discussion, but if she is enjoying the interaction, feel free to continue it using one of your Stylelife openers, personal stories, or disqualifiers.

Repeat this exercise until you either have one positive response or you've talked to five women -- whichever comes first.

When you return home, add the story about Cosmopolitan magazine that you successfully used today to your Stories To Tell list. Feel free to share the routine and your field report in the Challenge Discussion forum.


BONUS

Congratulations for making it through Day 13 and for pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. As a small gift, here's a pocket storytelling cheat sheet to help you review yesterday’s tasks:

Pocket Story Generator

posted by Style at 2:17 AM

Day 14

Day 14

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 14th.

Today’s topic is cold-reading, one of the quickest ways to distinguish yourself from all the other guys.


TASK 1

Read and take notes on the following ebook on cold-reading:

The Magic of Coldreading


TASK 2 (Optional)

Go to a psychic and get a reading.

If you have a small tape recorder, ask to record the session.

If you do not know where to find a local psychic (such as a neighborhood storefront or street market), check the listings guide you read yesterday or go to http://www.switchboard.com and search under “psychic mediums.”

Warning: Though most psychics are trustworthy, do not share financial, credit card, or personally identifying information. In addition, you should not have to pay more than the intitially quoted fee; if they ask for money after the reading to “warn you” of an imposing event, do not fall for this. Thank them for their time and leave.

Note: The only reason this task is listed as optional is because it costs money, typically from five to twenty-five dollars – don’t pay more. However, it is strongly recommended for all Stylelife Challenge participants.


TASK 3

The following task is for both those who performed Task 2 and those who did not.

If you’ve already had a psychic reading, skip this paragraph. If you didn’t have one because of money or time, go to the following website: Get Your Astrology Chart.

Input your date, time, and location of birth, and get your “birth chart.” Read the information as if you are getting your fortune told.

After the session, spend a few minutes analyzing the information based on the cold-reading ebook. Ask yourself the following questions:

Did you feel that the reading was good or bad? Why?

Did you feel that the reader was performing a generic routine or genuinely connecting with you? Why?

Did you feel that the reader understood you better than a stranger would? Why?

Do you feel that the reader was in touch with a higher power? Why?

Do you feel that you would want to visit the reader again? Why?

If there were any lines or phrases that the psychic (or astrology site) said to you that particularly struck home, write them down.


Task 4

Go to the Stylelife Forum. You’ll notice a new section, titled Cold-Reading. Add any lines the psychic said that worked for you, impressed you, or that you think are applicable when talking to women.

If you didn’t go to a psychic today because of the cost or time, feel free to generate your own ORIGINAL cold-reading lines or modify your favorites from your astrology reading to be applicable.

Throughout the day, look through the cold-reading lines shared by your fellow Challengers and give a QUALITY POINT to your three favorite posts.

posted by Style at 12:32 AM

Day 15

Saturday, July 15, 2006

Day 15

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 15th.

You have only one task today.

The reason why is this: It is that important.

It is a piece that you have most likely not read about, heard about, or even imagined was part of the game. It is also subtle, and will require to some degree the people and cold-reading skills you have learned thus far.

It is the piece that differentiates those who fail at the game from those who succeed – even though both may be saying the exact same thing.

It is the piece that will keep you from becoming a social robot.

It is also simple and basic.


TASK 1

Watch the following video presentation, then go out and perform the exercise suggested:

Do Unto Others

WARNING:

Some people think that success with women requires NOT being a nice guy. It sometimes seems like women always go for assholes, jerks, and bad boys.

But that's not true: the dichotomy isn't between nice and mean or good and bad. It's between weak and strong.

So you can still be nice, but you must also be strong.

Don't mistake being weak for being nice.

So when you do this exercise, remember: You are not seeking anyone's approval. Instead, you are giving them yours.


BONUS

Congratulations for taking today’s step toward being a more genuine person who other people enjoy being around. Here’s a cold-reading cheat sheet to help you review yesterday’s ebook:

Cold-Reading Pocket Guide

Day 16

Sunday, July 16, 2006

Day 16

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 16th.

Today you’re going to learn how to demonstrate higher value.

So far you’ve learned to approach a woman and begin a conversation. You’ve even learned how to continue that conversation with a few questions and stories.

But what next?

She has the possibility of meeting any number of guys. Why should she want to see you again?

Today, you are going to give her a reason. And you are going to do that by standing out from all the other guys. You are going to teach her something about herself, by combining the cold-reading lesson you learned on Day 14 with the exercise in non-neediness you learned yesterday into…


TASK 1

Enjoy the following presentation on The Ring Finger Routine:

DHV Of the Day

Listen to it as many times as you need to and take notes, until you feel that you can confidently perform it yourself. I recommend taking a small piece of paper and writing down what God and trait each finger represents. Carry this with you for…


TASK 2

Today, you are going to add the ring finger pattern to your stack of material.

Go to a café, bar, park, mall, or museum and start a conversation using one of the Stylelife Challenge Openers.

Afterward, as in day 11, pretend as if you’re about to leave, then spontaneously notice the ring on her finger and transition into the routine you learned in Task 1.

Don’t forget that if she is with friends, you want to make sure that they are included in the conversation.

Here is one way to introduce it after turning back to her: “I have to ask before I run, Why did you chose to wear that ring on that particular finger….Interesting…I have a friend who’s a spiritual type, and she just told me that like the finger you choose to wear your rings on says something about your personality…”

Also, if she is not wearing any rings, just ask instead, “Out of curiosity, and I’ll explain why I’m asking in a second, what finger do you usually wear your rings on?” or “…if you were to wear a ring, and it wasn’t a wedding ring obviously, what finger would it be on?”

Her reaction to your routine doesn’t matter. Whether she is fascinated or bored, you are solely doing this to practice demonstrating higher value – so as long as you’re saying it and she’s still standing there, you’re completing the task.

However, if she is interested, now is the time to practice your cold-reading lines. Try to slip one or two into each performance of the routine.

After you have practiced the ring finger routine on three separate women, your mission is complete.

NOTE: If you would like to experiment with other value-demonstrating routines, check the Cold Reading forum. Several Challengers have posted ESP and psychic routines in there, though not all of them are easy to learn in a day. You will receive a pdf with the best lines tomorrow.

Don't Forget: If you get your date early, make sure you share it with your fellow Challengers and stake your claim in the Winner’s Circle. There have been several date reports posted to other forums accidentally.

Day 17

Monday, July 17, 2006

Day 17

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Congratulations, you’ve passed the halfway point of the Stylelife Challenge.

We’ve covered a lot of material and ground in the last 16 days. For some, this has been more challenging than it has been for others.

Today, let’s pause and make sure that everyone is up to speed and has mastered the tasks given so far.

No Challenger gets left behind.

So, with that in mind, here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 17th.


TASK 1

Download the ebook containing the best cold-reading lines generated by the forum.

You all really outdid yourself with this assignment, because not only are there dozens of good cold-reading lines but also some very powerful value-demonstration routines. Great work.

Get your material here:

Challenger Coldreads and Routines


TASK 2

Download this pdf containing the complete Ring Finger Routine:

The Ring Finger Routine


TASK 3

Click on Days 10 to 15 above and review each day’s tasks.

Make a list of the exercises you don’t feel you’ve mastered yet.

Today, your mission is to REDO each and every task that you don’t feel competent in.

Any task in the Challenge is fair game: whether your posture still needs work, you still haven’t used disqualifiers successfully, you’ve slacked in your grooming duties, or you don’t feel comfortable with openers yet.

But most importantly, you should be able to walk up to a woman or group, deliver an opener successfully, and transition into a value demonstration such as the Ring Finger Routine.

If you are not able to do this, go out today and approach until you are comfortable with the Ring Finger Routine (or any other demonstration of value), so that you are ready for next week’s assignments, which will give you the next pieces in your game.


TASK 4

Share your sticking points with your fellow Challengers.

You will notice a new message board in the Styelife Forum titled: Sticking Points.

If you have any problems completing any of the tasks, any questions about your performance, or any confusion about the details, share them here.

If you have another issue that you feel is holding you back from effectively initiating conversations with women you meet, share them here.

If you feel that you are “behind” everyone else in the Challenge, discuss why here.

And if you are caught up and feel competent with all the material covered so far, make sure you help your fellow Challengers with their sticking pionts.

We’re all in this together.

NOTE: Confine your sticking points to the material that has been presented only. Since we have not yet covered phone numbers, phone calls, kissing, attraction, or seduction, they are not yet sticking points.


TASK 5

If you posted or identified a sticking point, choose one of the following two exercises to perform before going to sleep.

A. Perform the applicable exercise in the Inner Game book report with your specific sticking point in mind. If you didn’t save it, you can find it here:

Mastering Your Inner Game


OR

B. Listen to the mind-shaping audio before going to sleep tonight with your specific sticking point in mind. If you haven’t saved it, you can find it here:

Mindshaping Audio

posted by Style at 2:20 AM

Day 19

Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Day 19

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 19th.

Today is all about...seeding.


TASK 1

Pull out your Stylelife calendar.

If you’ve misplaced it, you can get it here:

Handy Stylelife Calendar

Fill in events on the calendar – as well as selling points and reasons to go – every day until Tuesday, July 25th. The events can be anything from flea markets to restaurants to concerts to parties your friends are having to odd tourist destinations to the psychic you went to on Day 14.

Familiarize yourself with the activities, the dates you listed them on, and the reasons for going.


TASK 2

Listen to the following introduction to seeding:

Guess Who Bought A New Microphone


TASK 3

Seed three conversations today with an event from your calendar.

Two of these conversations can be with people you already know. One, however, has to be with a woman you’ve approached using one of your Stylelife openers.

The goal of today’s exercise is not to get a phone number or a date – if that does happen, great! The goal of the exercise is to practice seeding a casual conversation for a future meeting.


TASK 4 (Optional)

For extra credit:

If you’re advanced enough that you’re able to have a conversation with most people you approach, try the following experiment instead of Task 3.

The assignment is to practice seeding a conversation with four women who you’ve approached using a standard opener.

After the first two conversations, do not invite the woman to the event you’ve seeded.

After the second two conversations, casually invite her to “tag along” with you to the event.

Share any observation on the difference between the two types of interactions in the Stylelife Challenge forum.


TASK 5

Since for many Challengers, the hardest assignment to internalize was the one on Disqualification, here’s some extra help -- a cheat sheet on the subject. Enjoy:

Disqualification Pocket Guide

posted by Style at 4:26 AM

Day 18

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

Day 18

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 18th.


TASK 1

Read the following ebook on threads, hooks, open loops, and other ways to supercharge a conversation:

Loops, Threads, and Hooks


TASK 2

Listen to the following audio file, demonstrating today’s exercise:

Spontaneity Training


TASK 3

Practice the exercise presented in Task 2.

There are two ways to do this.

1. Get together with a friend, and take turns presenting each other with a random word to create a story from.

It is important to start telling the story immediately, without waiting longer than 15 seconds.

2. If you don’t have a friend or wing to do this with, go to one of the following websites. These websites contain random word generators. Base a story on the random word presented by the generator; make sure you recite the story out loud:

Beginner Level Random Word Generator

Advanced Level Random Word Generator


TASK 4

Today’s field assignment is to practice creating open loops and multiple threads.

You are going to do this by going out and delivering an opener.

But before the opener and/or responses are complete, start another thread.

This thread can be:

A. One of your stories created during Storytelling day.

B. Another opener.

C. An observation or something situational.

D. A story inspired by something she said, like the exercise in Task 3.

E. The Ring Finger Routine

Don’t worry if this feels awkward or like you have attention deficit disorder at first. With enough practice, it will become natural.

Note: In a normal approach, you will want to create multiple threads, though not necessarily during the opener. However, for the purposes of this exercise, we will be creating them during the opener so that you can best practice them.

Today’s assignment is complete once you have successfully delivered two openers and interrupted them with a second thread.

Tip: Don’t think about it too much in advance. Go out into the field and open, and you’ll find that starting another thread will come easy to you once you have your intent set on it.

posted by Style at 2:42 AM

Day 20

Thursday, July 20, 2006

Day 20

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 20th.

Today, you will be learning the optimal way to get phone numbers.


TASK 1

Watch the following video tutorial on exchanging phone numbers:

The Style Number Close



TASK 2

Approach women today, using the material you’ve learned thus far.

Seed each conversation with a plan from your calendar, as you did yesterday.

However, this time, if it seems like you are generating interest from the woman, attempt the Style Number Close before leaving.

Make sure you attempt to exchange numbers after you've moved on to a different thread since planting your seed; also, after successfully exchanging phone numbers, make sure you talk to her for another minute or two to reduce any chance of buyer's remorse.

You have completed this exercise after you’ve EITHER gotten one telephone number OR approached eight women. Whichever happens first.


TASK 3

If you did not get a phone number today, post a field report about your approaches in the Stylelife Challenge forum.

If you did get a phone number, please read the posts in the Stylelife Challenge forum and advise your fellow Challengers on what you believe they are doing wrong.

posted by Style at 1:26 AM

Day 21

Friday, July 21, 2006

Day 21

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Today is an easy day.

It's also an important day.

Because today, you will synthesize the information you've received so far and fit it into a larger seduction framework.

Here, then, is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 21st.


TASK 1

Download and print out your silent wingman:

Routine Sheet

Fill in the blanks with the material you have successfully learned and used in the field so far. When finished, add in pencil any material that you would like to try.

This is your all-purpose cheat sheet.


TASK 2

Take your completed cheat sheet, fold it, and put it in your back pocket.

Your goal today is to approach a woman (or a group containing a woman) and make it from the top to the bottom of the sheet. You may SKIP as many of the lines, routines, and categories as you want, as long as you get to the phone number exchange.

Note that it is not necessary to use a piece of material from ALL the categories on the Routine Sheet during a sarge -- or even most of them. This is simply your safety net, so that you always have an idea of what to say and how to progress.


TASK 3

Download and study the following ebook overview of attraction, seduction, and general courtship strategy:

Cosmo's Opus

posted by Style at 2:36 AM

Day 22

Saturday, July 22, 2006

Day 22

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 22nd.

Today is frame-control day, in which you will learn techniques to stay dominant in a conversation.


TASK 1

Download and read the following ebook on frames and reframing.

On Framing


TASK 2

Choose from one of the following two exercises:

A. Reframe negativity: When you hear a friend, colleague, or stranger complain or say something negative, attempt to reframe it into something positive. For example, if someone says, “My girlfriend is nagging me to death,” tell him, “Why do you think she nags? It’s only because she cares so much about you. If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t nag.” Keep reframing until the person accepts one of your positive conclusions.

B. Frame Prank: Take some granola and put it in a plastic bag. Eat it in front of a friend, family, colleague, or stranger. Tell them that it’s dried dog food, and convince them to try it. After they’ve tried it, tell them it’s granola, and have them try it again. Watch the difference the frames you set make in their behavior toward the food in the bag.


TASK 3

Choose from one of the following two exercises:

A. Social Proof Frame: Introduce a friend to someone they don’t know – another friend, a family member, a stranger you’ve approached. Tell them right away that you two are excited because your friend just got a big inheritance; you don’t want to say how much but it’s in the seven figures. See if you can notice the person behaving differently to your friend. At some point later, tell them that you were just joking about the inheritance and you can’t believe they fell for it. (It’s important to make tease them for “falling for it” here to best change the frame.) See if their opinion or treatment of your friend changes.

B. Linguistic Frame: Approach a woman or group. Hook them to ask what you do for work with a phrase such as, “In my line of work….” or “…not in my profession.” Tell them you’re a movie actor and you’ve been in over a hundred films. See how their reaction to you changes. When they ask you to elaborate, wait as long as possible but eventually tell them that you’re in adult movies. You may, if you want, tell them you only act in non-nude roles. See if you can detect their behavior changing as you keep changing the frame through which they see you. (If you actually connect with someone, you should obviously eventually tell them the truth and that you were just joking around before.)


TASK 4

If you haven’t gotten a phone number yet, make three more approaches.

posted by Style at 5:29 PM

Day 23

Sunday, July 23, 2006

Day 23

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 23rd.

Today is your final REVIEW day.


TASK 1

Print the following checklist summarizing some of what you’ve learned so far:

Your Report Card



TASK 2

Rate yourself in each category on the pdf on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being very poor at the skill and 10 being perfect. Take this opportunity to explore or repeat whatever previous assignments are related to the skills you are deficient in. Re-read your goals and mission statement. Ask yourself if you are any closer to being the person you want to become?

Feel free to ask questions on the Stylelife Challenge board if you need help with anything already covered. The final dash to get a date begins next week, so make sure you’re caught up on everything.


TASK 3

Shower, shave, and put on a clean, sharp outfit.

Do not masturbate today.

If you’ve forgotten your lessons from grooming day, here’s a pocket guide to assist you:

Pocket-Sized Grooming Guide


TASK 4

If you did not get a phone number yesterday, go out and try again. If you are still not able to get a phone number after 12 more approaches, then go to the new Numberless In… message board. Submit a post headlined: NEED COACHING IN [INSERT YOUR CITY]. Include your EMAIL ADDRESS in this post.

If you did get a phone number yesterday, go out and make five more approaches.

If you get another number today, go to the Numberless In… message board. See if there is anyone in or near your city who needs help. If there is, contact them offline and, if possible, make a plan to meet them at a neutral location for lunch, dinner, or a drink tomorrow. You will receive your instructions on what to do during that meeting tomorrow.

posted by Style at 8:00 AM

Day 24

Monday, July 24, 2006

Day 24

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 24th.


TASK 1

If you made an arrangement to meet a fellow Challenger or Challengers today, set up a time and do so, forming your Challenger Team.

If you have not made such an arrangement, but have either already been accepted into the Winner’s Circle or have received a phone number, check the NUMBERLESS IN… message board. See if there is a Challenger looking for help in your area who hasn’t yet found a local coach. Offer to meet him briefly today.

It is best to meet in a public place, like a cafe, lounge, or bar, where you can both make approaches.

TASK 2

Read the following ebook on the biggest ailment preventing most males from becoming PUAs:

Your Birthright


TASK 3

Here is what you should plan on accomplishing at your Challenger Team meeting today:

1. Offer your fellow Challenger any constructive advice you can on the first impression they make. This should pertain only to your first impression of them, based on no prior or subsequent knowledge.

2. Offer further advice on their appearance, their sticking points, their inner game, their limiting beliefs, and their understanding of the game. See if you can help tune or fix with whatever is holding them back.

3. Encourage them to make an approach. Watch and give them feedback.

4. Let them watch you make an approach. Get feedback from them.

5. Learn one another’s identity statement. Next time you enter a set, introduce your wing before he enters the group. (Note: Never enter a set together; the second person should enter the set after it appears as if the person who approached has hit the hook point.)

6. The member or members of your team who have not yet received a phone number should talk to at least five women over the course of the night, with the goal of exchanging numbers. Those who have already had a date or received a phone number should do their best to help them meet this goal.


TASK 4

Either alone, with a good friend, or in your Challenger Team, you are going to plan a day- or night-time event for Sunday, July 30. (If that date doesn’t work for you, Saturday, July 29 is an alternate.)

Here are more specific instructions:

Stylelife Party

Note: If you've already had a date or a second meeting with a girl you've met this month, make sure you post your field report in the Winner's Circle to be eligible for a special prize.

posted by Style at 11:54 AM

Day 25

Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Day 25

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 25th.


TASK 1

Listen to the following important message from Rourke:

Filling In The Gaps


TASK 2

Read the following ebook on Telephone Technique:

Phone Game


TASK 3

Phone all the women whose numbers you’ve collected in the last few weeks, whether you want to see them or not.

Practice the telephone techniques you learned above.

Invite them to the event or party you’ve planned for Sunday.

Note: If you have not yet received a phone number, make five more approaches today with that goal in mind. Make sure you study your completed Stylelife Routine Sheet and Events Calendar first.

posted by Style at 3:15 AM

Day 26

Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Day 26

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 26th.

This may be the most difficult assignment so far, but it will also provide the greatest benefit to your intuitive understanding of social interaction and attraction.


TASK 1

Forget everything you’ve learned so far.


TASK 2

Approach three women today using no material.

Do not start the conversation by asking for their opinion; do not use pre-scripted disqualifiers; do not use any of the cold-reading lines you’ve learned; do not use any of the value-demonstrating routines you’ve memorized.

Keep the conversation going as long as you can. Do not be afraid of small talk or asking generic questions about work, movies, or music. Stay in the conversation until she excuses herself, or it’s clear that she wants you to leave. It may get awkward, but stay in there.

If it goes well, feel free to invite her to your Sunday event or one of your calendar events.

If possible, time the conversation.

Your goal is to stay in a conversation without using material for ten minutes.


TASK 3

Share any thoughts about the conversation in the Stylelife Challenge Forum. Did you notice any differences between using the material provided and not? Any difference between how you interacted in the past versus now?


TASK 4

Explore another point of view. Read the following experiential book report on The Art Of Seduction:

The Art Of Seduction


TASK 5 Optional

By Challenger request, below is a print version of Rourke's Day 25 audio lesson on fill-ins.

On Fill-Ins

posted by Style at 10:22 AM

Day 27

Thursday, July 27, 2006

Day 27

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

There are five more days left in the Challenge.

For those of you who do not yet have a phone number or a date arranged, it is time for action.

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 27th.


TASK 1

Read the following ebook on breaking the physical barrier:


A Kino Primer


TASK 2

Brush up on your openers with the following pocket guides:


Openers Cheat Sheet


Memorizing Openers Cheat Sheet


TASK 3

If you have not settled on a location for your Stylelife party this weekend, do so.

Write out your ideal guest list of five to ten people, including any woman you have exchanged phone numbers with.

Call and invite all your guests, if you did not do so yesterday. Make sure you give them a specific location and time to arrive. Emphasize that it's going to be a small, select group of hand-picked people, so that they know that their presence is wanted and necessary.


TASK 4

If you do not yet have a meeting set up with a woman you have met or have not yet been on a date, it's time to get proactive. If you have a Stylelife Challenge team, call your partner and see if he will go sarging with you today.

With or without him, go to one of the following five locations and make three approaches:

1. A health-food grocery store, such as Trader Joe's or Whole Foods.
2. The lobby, lounge, bar, or pool area of a major hotel.
3. The campus, bookstore, library, cafeteria, or student center of a college.
4. A local spirituality bookstore or yoga center.
5. A department store that sells women's clothing and makeup.

If you are already comfortable with every stage of the approach from the opener to the number close, experiment with the use of formal, friendly, and consoling kino.

If the interaction is successful, make sure you invite her to your weekend party.

Note: If you've already been on a date or had a second meeting with a woman you've met over the course of the Challenge, make sure you add your field report to the Winner's Circle message board.

posted by Style at 11:09 AM

Day 28

Friday, July 28, 2006

Day 28

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 28th.


TASK 1 (Optional)

I went through some of your posts in the Forum with a camera and microphone running, and posted the result online for you. You can watch it here:

Motivating Feedback

Note: The website Youtube.com will be down temporarily for maintenance tonight. If you are not able to access the video, move on to the rest of the tasks and watch it later. The information in the video is not necessary for your completion of today’s tasks.


TASK 2

Read the following ebook on Troubleshooting:

Know Thyself


TASK 3

If you have not yet successfully invited a woman you’ve met to your Stylelife Challenge Party, that is okay.

However, if you are having problems coordinating your Stylelife Challenge Party or if you have not yet had confirmations from three or more friends for your party this weekend, combine your party with another one in your area.

If you do not have a Stylelife Challenge team mate to throw the party with, or if your Stylelife Challenge team is having trouble finding enough guests, go to the Numberless In... board and submit a post titled Looking For A Party In [Your City].

If you have already successfully planned your party, please check this board and look for a fellow Challenger to help.

This way, Challengers can combine their parties into one. Make sure you learn each other’s identity, so that you can social proof each other to the rest of the guests ahead of time. (You should be sharing an identity statement about ALL your guests with the other guests, so that everyone feels this is a special occasion full of interesting people.)

Note that even if you are now going to another Challenger's party, you're still not off the hook. It's still your goal to bring your own date (or dates).


TASK 4

Pull out your Stylelife Calendar.

If you’ve misplaced it, you can get it here:

Magical Date-Getting Calendar

Fill in events on the calendar – as well as selling points and reasons to go – every day until the end of the month. The events can be anything from flea markets to restaurants to concerts to parties your friends are having to odd tourist destinations to the psychic you went to on Day 14. Make sure you include your Stylelife Challenge party on your calendar.

Familiarize yourself with the activities, the dates you listed them on, and the reasons for going.


TASK 5

If you have not received confirmations from at least two women you’ve approached for your Stylelife Challenge party (or for your calendar events this week), it’s approach time.

Approach five women today using the material you’ve learned so far.

If the interaction is going well, make sure you seed compelling information about your “weekly” parties. However, don’t invite her until later in the interaction.

Your goal is to get one new, solid prospect for your party this weekend.


TASK 6

Read the following ebook on rapport to prepare for tomorrow’s assignment:

How To Create Rapport

posted by Style at 3:37 AM

Day 29

Saturday, July 29, 2006

Day 29

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Apologies for the lateness in posting today's assignment.

These kinds of things can happen in Vegas.

If this was a private site, I'd post a field report.

You'd enjoy it.

However, it's time to start posting your own field reports.

Make sure you've posted a field report in the Winner's Circle if you've been on any date or second meeting with a woman you've met during Challenge Month. Only people who've posted in the Winner's Circle will be eligible to win the Stylelife Challenge grand prize. The criteria you will be judged on by your peers include: most improvement, greatest contribution to the forum, and quality of winning field report.

For those who haven't yet arranged a date, we're going to mix it up for you today.

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 29th.


TASK 1

If you have not yet read the ebook on creating rapport, please do so now:

How To Create Rapport


TASK 2

Choose two of the three rapport exercises below to perform. These are ideally practiced with a woman you’ve just approached, but it’s okay to test them with a co-worker, a cashier, a friend of a friend, in an online chat with someone new, or with anyone you’ve just met.

A. Making and Breaking Rapport

During the following exercise, watch the other person’s reaction as you instantly create rapport and then instantly destroy it.

Have a conversation LIKE the following:

You: Where are you from?
Her: [whatever city]
You: Oh my god, no way. I grew up there too. What school did you go to?
Her: [whatever school]
You: Get out of here. I went there too.
Her: [Really? What year were you? Etc]
You: Just kidding. I’ve never actually been there. [Said monotone and sarcastically:] Are you mad?

B. Rapport Test

This next exercise is designed to see if the person you’re talking to is striving to create rapport with you.

You: Out of curiosity, what’s the last CD you got or song you downloaded?
Her: [whatever]
You: Really? I’m surprised. I’m not the biggest fan of his/her/their music.
Her: [If she backpedals and says she’s not so into the music, this means she’s seeking rapport with you/If she tells you the reasons why she likes the music or disagrees with you, she either isn’t or is simply confident in her opinions and taste.]

C. Physical Rapport

This exercise is designed to show the power of body language to make someone comfortable or uncomfortable.

During a conversation with someone you are comfortable with, cross your arms and turn away from them while they are talking. If seated, cross your legs away from them as well. Stay like that for a few minutes.

See if they begin to get rattled or uncomfortable when speaking. Then uncross your arms and turn back towards them. If they are a good friend, you may ask them if they noticed or felt a difference when you broke physical rapport.


TASK 3

Read the following ebook on working the personals:

Online Game


TASK 4

If you have not yet been on a date or arranged for women you’ve met to come to your Stylelife party, it’s time to work the Internet.

You have the option of trying both the traditional personals sites, or one of the following FREE sites. Please note that the sites suggested below have most of their traffic in North America; if you are from Europe, Australia, Asia, or South America, feel free to use whatever networking site is most popular locally. You may share these sites on the Challenge message board if they are free, are not full of advertisements or fake profiles, and if you've successfully used them to meet women.

1. Craig's List

Check the “Personals” section. Post a profile in the “men seeking women” section. And respond to any NEW posts in the “women seeking men” section. Note that if any of the posts seem “too good to be true” in the “women seeking men” section, they are probably ads for escorts or webcams.

2. MySpace

If you already have a profile, scour the site and send emails to at least ten women. Send the same template email, with small details changed to fit their profile. You may also want to post a bulletin to draw people to your profile.

If you do not have a profile, create one. Add as many friends as you can, whether you know them or not, simply by exploring the site. Send emails to at least ten women.

Your goal is to make a date with a woman you’ve met online before the Challenge ends on July 31st.

posted by Style at 8:05 PM

Day 30

Sunday, July 30, 2006

Day 30

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 30th.

If you have not yet been on or arranged a date this month, it’s time to get serious.

Tomorrow, the Challenge ends.

And you have the tools it takes to be a winner.

All you have to do is use and implement them.

If you don't have a date yet, it's time to sprint to the finish line.

And to make sure no one gets left behind, I’ve saved one technique for Day 29:

The Stylelife Challenge Instant Conversation Starter.

It’s up to you to go out and use it.


TASK 1

If you have not yet been on or arranged a date, print out the following pdf:

Instant Conversation Starter


TASK 2

Go to a coffee shop, preferably a place with high traffic such as Starbucks, the Coffee Bean, or a university coffeehouse. Bring your Instant Conversation Starter and something to write with.

Fill in three to five spaces on the list with films. However, leave the number one and number two spaces blank.

Ask women for assistance in filling out the survey. Since this is the penultimate day of the Challenge and it is a Sunday, spend as long as it takes until you have a solid number close -- from a woman who you are near-certain will come to your Stylelife Challenge party tomorrow (or, if you weren’t able to plan a party, to an event in your Stylelife Calendar).

Here’s a sample script you may want to use:

“Hey, you look like you may know something about movies. I’m trying to vote on the top 25 films of all time for an online magazine I sometimes do stuff for, and I’m experiencing total brain freeze. Here’s what I have so far.”

Then show her the list, and have her help you fill it out. Some suggestions are included at the bottom of the survey, in case she has trouble thinking on the spot.

When the energy begins to flag, start a new thread by using an opinion opener or the ring finger pattern.

Your goal, of course, is to seed your Challenge Party (or Day 31 calendar event), invite her to it at the end of the conversation, and use the number close you learned here.

If you’ve spent more than an hour in the coffee shop and haven’t gotten the result you want yet, feel free to post on the Challenge Discussion board or call your Stylelife Challenge teammate and ask for tips. Then head to another coffee shop and try again.

This is the first day of the rest of your dating life.


TASK 3

Enjoy the following pocket guide to Day 27's kino lesson:

Kino Cheat Sheet

NOTE: Make sure you check in tomorrow for your Final Assignment, Voting Instructions, and a Special Bonus

posted by Style at 10:59 AM

Day 31

Monday, July 31, 2006

Day 31!

Dear Stylelife Challenger,

Congratulations. You made it to the final day of the Challenge.

If you’ve performed all the previous assignments and feel like you have improved yourself in any way this month, then you are a winner. Some people go through their whole lives in darkness.

Here, then, is your final assignment.


TASK 1

Watch the following Day 31 concluding and congratulatory message:

Auf Wiedersehen


TASK 2

A few of you waited until today to throw your Stylelife party.

If you were not able to invite any women – or are not sure whether enough people are going to show up – set aside two hours before the party to make approaches.

Go to a nearby location such as a mall, café, or any area where people gather. Make as many approaches as possible. As soon as you hit the hook point, give yourself a time constraint and invite them to your Stylelife Challenge party. Make sure it’s clear that the party is simply about getting an interesting group of men and women together to have fun, network, and/or make good conversation. Write down the party details – or, even better, text it to them.

If you have any questions about your Stylelife Challenge party, post them in the Challenge Discussion forum and they will be answered promptly by myself or a moderator.

Otherwise, we’re looking forward to seeing the party pictures from this weekend and today in the forum!


TASK 3

If you’ve been on a date (defined simply as a planned follow-up encounter with a woman you’ve approached this month – whether it happens minutes or weeks after meeting), make sure that you post your field report in the Winner’s Circle. It doesn’t matter whether it went well or not, as long as she showed up.


TASK 4

If by the end of today, you were NOT able to get a date despite following all 31 days of assignments, a new message board has been created for you. The title of this message board is: WORKS IN PROGRESS.

Start a thread here using your nickname as the title. In the message, describe in a sentence or two any sticking points or other issues that you believe held you back from getting a date. Note that this board is only open to official Challengers who have been following the assignments from Day 1 through today.

Your issue will be dealt with in a special Stylelife Challenge bonus. I meant it when I said: No challenger gets left behind.

Note: Do not post on this board if you’ve already won the Challenge, are not an official Challenger, or have not followed all the assignments.


TASK 5

If for some reason you are here but you're not on my VIP list at www.neilstrauss.com, sign up now. This way, you will be guaranteed to receive updates on the winner of the Challenge and the prize, and any cool bonuses offered in the future. You can sign up at this link:

Step Right Up


TASK 6

If you are an official Challenger and posted your name in the Stylelife Challengers board at the beginning of the Challenge, it’s time to decide which winner will receive the Stylelife Grand Prize.

Read through the posts in the Winner’s Circle and select the ONE person who you feel best matches ALL THREE of the following criteria:

--Most Improved Challenger

--Most Useful Contributions To The Forum

--Best Winning Field Report

Once you have selected the SINGLE Challenger who best embodies all three qualities, click on the following link to place your vote:

Elect A Challenger

Please note that voting is only open to those who posted their name in the Challenger Board at the beginning of the month. And only those who have posted date field reports in the Winner’s Circle are eligible to receive the Grand Prize. Remember, the prize is only intended to make things fun; if you’ve gotten anything out of the last 30 days, you’re already a winner.


TASK 7

Though this was not my intention, all of you have created a community to valuable to lose. Thus, the website and message boards will remain open after today so that you may all continue to help each other and learn. Thanks for playing, and stay tuned!


Special thanks and much praise to the Stylelife Wrecking Cru:

Rourke
Don Diego Garcia
JGatz
Masters
Haze
Organizer
Brad
SL_Support
TechSupport
PhoenixBird

May you all be fruitful and multiply.

posted by Style at 11:52 AM