Day 22
Saturday, July 22, 2006
Day 22
Dear Stylelife Challenger,
Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 22nd.
Today is frame-control day, in which you will learn techniques to stay dominant in a conversation.
TASK 1
Download and read the following ebook on frames and reframing.
On Framing
TASK 2
Choose from one of the following two exercises:
A. Reframe negativity: When you hear a friend, colleague, or stranger complain or say something negative, attempt to reframe it into something positive. For example, if someone says, “My girlfriend is nagging me to death,” tell him, “Why do you think she nags? It’s only because she cares so much about you. If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t nag.” Keep reframing until the person accepts one of your positive conclusions.
B. Frame Prank: Take some granola and put it in a plastic bag. Eat it in front of a friend, family, colleague, or stranger. Tell them that it’s dried dog food, and convince them to try it. After they’ve tried it, tell them it’s granola, and have them try it again. Watch the difference the frames you set make in their behavior toward the food in the bag.
TASK 3
Choose from one of the following two exercises:
A. Social Proof Frame: Introduce a friend to someone they don’t know – another friend, a family member, a stranger you’ve approached. Tell them right away that you two are excited because your friend just got a big inheritance; you don’t want to say how much but it’s in the seven figures. See if you can notice the person behaving differently to your friend. At some point later, tell them that you were just joking about the inheritance and you can’t believe they fell for it. (It’s important to make tease them for “falling for it” here to best change the frame.) See if their opinion or treatment of your friend changes.
B. Linguistic Frame: Approach a woman or group. Hook them to ask what you do for work with a phrase such as, “In my line of work….” or “…not in my profession.” Tell them you’re a movie actor and you’ve been in over a hundred films. See how their reaction to you changes. When they ask you to elaborate, wait as long as possible but eventually tell them that you’re in adult movies. You may, if you want, tell them you only act in non-nude roles. See if you can detect their behavior changing as you keep changing the frame through which they see you. (If you actually connect with someone, you should obviously eventually tell them the truth and that you were just joking around before.)
TASK 4
If you haven’t gotten a phone number yet, make three more approaches.
Here is your Stylelife Challenge Assignment for July 22nd.
Today is frame-control day, in which you will learn techniques to stay dominant in a conversation.
TASK 1
Download and read the following ebook on frames and reframing.
On Framing
TASK 2
Choose from one of the following two exercises:
A. Reframe negativity: When you hear a friend, colleague, or stranger complain or say something negative, attempt to reframe it into something positive. For example, if someone says, “My girlfriend is nagging me to death,” tell him, “Why do you think she nags? It’s only because she cares so much about you. If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t nag.” Keep reframing until the person accepts one of your positive conclusions.
B. Frame Prank: Take some granola and put it in a plastic bag. Eat it in front of a friend, family, colleague, or stranger. Tell them that it’s dried dog food, and convince them to try it. After they’ve tried it, tell them it’s granola, and have them try it again. Watch the difference the frames you set make in their behavior toward the food in the bag.
TASK 3
Choose from one of the following two exercises:
A. Social Proof Frame: Introduce a friend to someone they don’t know – another friend, a family member, a stranger you’ve approached. Tell them right away that you two are excited because your friend just got a big inheritance; you don’t want to say how much but it’s in the seven figures. See if you can notice the person behaving differently to your friend. At some point later, tell them that you were just joking about the inheritance and you can’t believe they fell for it. (It’s important to make tease them for “falling for it” here to best change the frame.) See if their opinion or treatment of your friend changes.
B. Linguistic Frame: Approach a woman or group. Hook them to ask what you do for work with a phrase such as, “In my line of work….” or “…not in my profession.” Tell them you’re a movie actor and you’ve been in over a hundred films. See how their reaction to you changes. When they ask you to elaborate, wait as long as possible but eventually tell them that you’re in adult movies. You may, if you want, tell them you only act in non-nude roles. See if you can detect their behavior changing as you keep changing the frame through which they see you. (If you actually connect with someone, you should obviously eventually tell them the truth and that you were just joking around before.)
TASK 4
If you haven’t gotten a phone number yet, make three more approaches.
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